December 20th, 2020

When Quintron & Miss Pussycat played at The Trunk Space they dug Fathers Day so much that they asked us to finish the tour with them, we declined because we all had day jobs but excitedly joined them for their show the following night in San Diego at least. 

When we got there they tried to ask the promoter of the anarchist collective "The Che Cafe'" if we could hop on the show and the promotor said "no" because there were too many bands on the bill already. The lineup that night consisted of Joseph Karam + David Scott Stone, Harry Merry, Some Girls and Quintron & Miss Pussycat.

Shows at this spot did start a lot later then they did in Phoenix. I think this show didn't start until 9:30pm or 10pm and the Phoenix show the night before was almost over by that time.

Anyway, I remember a lot of hipster types at this show and there was this one guy who stood out because he was being such a dickhead during everyone's sets. He was being pretty violent during Some Girls set and when Harry Merry went on, he was making fun of him loudly, calling him the r-word...etc

Here is video from the first 20 minutes of Harry Merry's set on this night. You can see the guy I'm talking about up front dancing wildly near Emily and Andrew from Fathers Day and hear him a couple times between songs making fun of the way Harry speaks.

Anyway, we kept hearing other people at this show talk amongst themselves about how much this guy sucked, but no one was addressing the guy about it and then Emily (who is much smaller than this guy) walks up and just punches him in the back of the head. Then he was gone for the rest of Harry Merrys set. (Which was for quite a while, since Harry played for an hour or more at every show, I would later learn this because of when I booked and played shows with him multiple times over the next 4-5 years)

When Quintron & Miss Pussycat go on, they blow everyone away like they do, but only played for like 20 minutes so Fathers Day could quickly pull our equipment out in front of the stage and go right into our short set.

Our bass broke during the first song, so Quintron hopped on his organ and it made our sound really incredible that night!

So, this asshole comes back during our set and I literally kicked him out, with a high kick to the chest and I wish there was video footage of that but this YouTube video above is only of the first 4 minutes of our 10 minute set.

And that is what started Fathers Day and Q+P's long lasting friendship.

Some additional thoughts about the san diego show...

1. It really sucks that no one from the San Diego show who was more familiar with the space, collective or ESPECIALLY the promotor did anything about this guy being extra aggressive, violent or belligerent at this show.
2. It sucks that out of the 4 members of Fathers Day, the only one who felt comfortable enough to take action (even if that action is arguably funny and/or cowardice) was the smallest and only female of the band. Like, I get that we were all sensitive art school and home schooled kids but it shouldn't have been the most marginalized member of the group to stand up to this asshole.
3. It is frustrating to deal with and internalize that I only felt comfortable addressing the issue once I was in character / being the lead singer of the band performing. 
4. While I think it is important for performing artists to call this shitty behavior out and put an end to it as soon as they can, I can't help but deal with the fact that by not even trying to talk to this guy about what he was doing earlier, I was somehow uplifting a form of white supremacy.